How to Overcome #But.....

But is just a three letter word, yet it has killed more dreams and stopped most visions than any other word in the English language. It is one of the words that has the potential to stop a well-equipped and advancing army. BUT simply means, “Between Us and the Target”.


You have a target, a goal, a vision and a dream about the type of life you desire to live or the type of work environment you want to work in, and then you let BUT come between you and where you want to be.


You must learn how to overcome BUT, because but will sooner or later come between you and the next move you want to make. You must overcome BUT if where you are right now is not where you want to be.


The lure to use but is so strong because, it gives you a sense of comfort and excuses your action or inaction depending on the situation.

Take for example your department has had some challenges lately, that resulted in a new manager being hired. The manager comes in a lays out a new vision for the department expecting everybody to get excited about the future. This is a typical response! “Well we are grateful that you are here and thank you so much for casting a new vision for the department, BUT things are not done around here the way you are suggesting, therefore it will not work” This response is simply saying that Between Us and the Target is our past negative or failed policies. We are unable to get follow the new vision because we are unable to let go of the past.

If you are driving and focusing solely on the review mirror you will crash your car. In so much as it is OK to look at the past once in a while, it should not be your main focus. Change comes with a lot of uncertainties and maybe frightening at times. This should not prevent you from embracing it. So stop looking at the past and focus on the target that is ahead of you. Do not let anything come between you and the target.

You get up in the morning and feelings of depression and moodiness overwhelm you instead of reminding yourself of some of the good things in your life, you let “But” come between you and a bright new day filled with limitless possibilities.

You have a great idea for a new product, but you say nobody is going to buy it.

You have the inspiration to write a book, but you convince yourself that nobody will read it

You have an idea to be kind to others, but you say it will not do any good

Your desire has been to keep your weight in check, but you say it will not work

Last year you promised to write a blog post each month, but you have talked yourself out of it. Because you are afraid nobody will visit your blog.

You have been hurt by people, but you chose not to forgive because they hurt you.

The only way to overcome BUT is to stop using it. Focus intensely on the target and do not let anything come between you and it. Those who pursue their dreams and achieve them have mastered the art of getting rid of BUT in their thinking.

Remember all but is good for is coming in-between you and your target. Get rid of all the excuses for not doing what you know will move you from where you are to where you want to be.

Start from today:

Instead of saying yes BUT, say yes it is possible.

Yes it is feasible

Yes, it is doable

Yes it is necessary

Yes, I will and I can do it.

Share with the world what you find out as you get rid of BUT…


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